People don't notice your mistakes as much as you think
Yeah, that’s very often true.
Most people are way more focused on themselves than on tracking what others are doing “wrong.” So when you make a mistake—say something awkward, stumble over words, forget something—it usually lands in your mind as huge, while for everyone else it barely registers or gets forgotten quickly.
There’s also something called the “spotlight effect”: we tend to feel like we’re being observed more closely than we actually are. But in reality, everyone is busy thinking about their own thoughts, worries, and insecurities.
That doesn’t mean mistakes feel small in the moment—they can still feel intense—but they’re usually much less visible and less important to others than they seem to you.
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