How to get over hateful remarks
Getting over hateful remarks—whether subtle or direct—can be really hard, especially when they hit sensitive areas. But with the right tools, you can protect your sense of self and move forward stronger. Here's a guide to help:
💔 Step 1: Acknowledge What You Felt
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It's okay to feel hurt, angry, confused, or even numb.
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Don’t shame yourself for feeling affected—words can bruise.
“Just because someone throws garbage at you doesn’t mean it belongs to you.”
🧠 Step 2: Separate Truth from Projection
Ask yourself:
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Is what they said actually true? Or was it meant to hurt?
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Often, hateful people are projecting their own pain or insecurity.
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You don’t need to take ownership of their cruelty.
🛡️ Step 3: Protect Your Inner Space
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Imagine a mental boundary: Their words stop outside you.
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Say quietly to yourself:
“That’s not mine. I’m not taking it in.”
If needed, physically walk away or block/unfollow online.
💬 Step 4: Respond… or Don’t
You’re not required to reply. Silence is powerful.
If you must respond, stay calm and brief:
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“That was unnecessary.”
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“I don’t accept being spoken to that way.”
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“Okay.” (and walk away)
Never try to win over hateful people—it's not your job.
💪 Step 5: Refocus on Your Truth
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Recall who you are, what you value.
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Write down 3 things you like about yourself.
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Spend time with people who treat you with kindness.
You’re not defined by one mean moment or one person’s opinion.
🧘♀️ Bonus Tips for Long-Term Strength:
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Journaling: Let out what you wanted to say, just for you.
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Meditation or deep breathing: To regulate the nervous system.
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Affirmations: Even a simple “I matter. I am allowed to take space.”
Final Thought:
“You’re not weak for feeling hurt. You’re strong when you choose not to carry someone else’s cruelty in your heart.”
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